My Mummy's World

Saturday, 15 July 2017

Siblings | July

It has been a while since I last joined in with siblings, in fact I haven't joined in this year when I promised myself I would. However, that is a whole other story so lets get back onto it. 

Of course, since my last update they have changed and developed so much. 
Of recent they have become a lot closer, yesterday for instance, we went to collect Jack from school and as soon as he came out she ran up to him and gave him a big squeeze. She finally let go for him to pass his things over before they gave each other a big squeeze again. They are very loving towards each other, often found sharing their toys and playing games together. 

I've found that since Isla's speech has been coming along nicely, Jack's found it much easier to communicate with her. He can't always understand what she is saying but he has a good go, now that she's not so much of a baby sob their relationship is blossoming. 

Recently Jacks had some friends around to play after school and I was worried how he would be with a friend and his little sister, but he included her within everything which Isla absolutely loved. 

However, don't get me wrong it's not always plain sailing with these two, their temperaments are so alike they can often clash. You will occasionally find them screaming at each other if one does something the other doesn't like, even more so if they are over-tired. 

That's my two in a nutshell this past month. I love how their relationship is and how its becoming each day. 

Thursday, 29 June 2017

Isla | Two Years Old

So cliche but it's hard to believe Isla is two, I cannot believe she is growing up so quickly, but also it feels like she has been here a whole lot longer. 
I feel she has changed so much since the last update six months ago, but especially within the last year.

So physically, of course, shes taller, a lot more grown up despite still having chunky thighs which are just the cutest. Her hair is coming on, shes still hardly got any but a lot more than her first birthday. At the back its down to the bottom of her neck and has some other long parts too. Hopefully she will soon have enough for a small pineapple bobble. 

Her confidence is blooming, she is a lot more outgoing then I ever remember Jack being at this age. She is such an independent little girl, preferring to do things alone than with help. Not wanting to be in her pushchair very often of recent and wanting to walk a lot more, when we aren't in a rush we let her but other than that, we can encourage her into the pushchair. Isla absolutely loves to run, shes quite hilarious but damn quick. We had Jacks sports day last week and she came first in the toddlers race. 

Her vocabulary is coming along, although my Nan still says she can't understand her, her words are a lot clearer and almost everyone can pick up what shes saying. We are at the stage again of watching what we say as she is repeating absolutely everything, yep you know that stage

Her eating habits are still really good, eating everything we place in front of her, although not always in the cleanest of manners it almost always gets eaten. Shes still a fan of meat and vegetables although her favourite food of all is bananas. Shes drinking a bit more independently too, taking more drinks from a beaker now than before. She is still breastfeeding like a pro, this last week reducing to mainly just an evening feed for bedtime with the occasional daytime feed too if shes wanting a nap. 

Most of all, I cannot believe how much this little girl of mine has grown up. The little independent monster she has become. 

Happy 2nd Birthday, beautiful girl. 

Wednesday, 7 June 2017

Our Summer Bucket List.

With that little flash of summer we had the other week, its got me thinking about our plans for the summer. I mean the six weeks holidays will soon be upon us and if I don't start thinking, we will end up missing out again. 

So what do we want to achieve this summer?

A Beach Visit - Isla is yet to have had a proper visit to a beach and play within the sand, we visited one when she was little but she didn't get out of her pushchair as she was too small. It was the year before last so thats the last time I took Jack too. He has been since with family but I want to build a massive moat and sandcastles with them. 

A Wedding - This summer, my friend is getting married, so we have that on our plans too. I'm looking forward to dressing both the children up for the occasion although I'm yet to find myself an outfit. I'm thinking something more along the lines of a luxury outfit than just a standard summer dress, its not very often we get to dress up. 

A Train Visit - Our summer wouldn't be complete without a train visit, so one of those will happen somewhere in the holidays, maybe even a couple of visits. Jack absolutely loves trains and we are hoping to take him to all of the ones within the UK eventually so crossing off one or two more would be great. 

Some Crafting Time - I'm well aware not every day will be hot and sunny or that we will be able to get out, but rather than just sit around, I'm planning some summer themed activities we can do indoors to bring summer inside. 

A BBQ - Jack keeps asking for us to have a BBQ, and since our garden isn't complete just yet, we don't have one. But we plan to go around to family members to enjoy a BBQ like we have done on previous years. 

Forest Walks - We are lucky where we live and the local area surrounding us. I plan to get out to the National Trust locations or even just the forest nearby so we can explore.

Celebrate my Birthday - This is of course the most important right? I don't actually do anything for my birthday now we have the children, but we still celebrate with a little party and cake so we will ensure we get that. 

I cannot wait for summer to arrive, so we are able to get on with our plans.
What do you have planned for summer? What else should I include?

This is a collaborative post.

Tuesday, 6 June 2017

How to find your man the perfect suit.

Who else agrees that a man wearing a suit can majorly change their overall appearance?
When my partner wears a suit, I totally look at him in a different light, all professional looking. BUT, choosing a good suit for them can be a difficult choice. Men don't have the greatest clothing range to choose from but the suit department tends to have loads of choice for them. 

Anyway, shopping for suits can be difficult, I mean shopping for men is difficult enough without the added stress of finding the perfect suit, please say you've been there too? So I thought I'd share some tips for looking for a good suit, no matter what the occasion. Oh and Fathers Day is fast approaching, perfect excuse right?

First and foremost, Get Measured. 
In many stores around the country you will have qualified and trained staff members who are on hand to perfectly take all your measurements for you, ensuring you get the perfect fit. 

Choose the Right Fabric.
You may have a preference on the fabric you would like to use, and as suits come in all kinds of fabrics you will need to narrow it down to what looks and fits you best. Another thing to consider with the fabrics is are they machine washable suits or will they require dry-cleaning each time - therefore making them more expensive long term. The time of the year and weather will also play preference on this too, you are not going to be wanting a pure wool suit in summer are you?

Check the Fittings.
I don't mean how it fits on you, I mean the fit the suit comes in, slim fit, tailored or the classic. Each style being different from the others and a crucial choice to make. Each can change the overall look you are trying to achieve too. 

Finally, To Jacket or Not to Jacket?
That is the question... 
I love a suit with a waistcoat, but also feel these are for more formal events, weddings as such. But then for weddings I like the idea of full tails if your part of the ceremony. I feel a jacket is a more casual approach, but equally these just get hung up, or draped on a chair so is there much use? Again, this can change the overall look so is an important decision to make. 

Overall, there is a lot of differentiating factors when it comes to purchasing a suit, all of which can quickly change the overall look, so its not a decision to be rushed, but equally not one you need to take too much time over. 

What kind of suits do you like?

This is a Collaborative Post.

Monday, 5 June 2017

Meg Heath Dog Lead | A Review

This month sees my beautiful Dottie turn 1, we've had her now for 9 months, and what an adventurous few months they have been. Despite her digging up all the plants, tearing the artificial lawn which was brand new the month before having her and generally destroying the place, I couldn't imagine our lives without her.

Last month, we were contacted to see if she would like a new lead or collar from Meg Heath Dog Leads, a small business based in Lincolnshire. Meg Heath Dog Leads specialise in making bespoke handmade dog leads, collars and harnesses in a range of materials and colours, from bright to neutrals.

For Dottie, I opted to get a dog lead, but as she is still training with her walking, I wanted one which was suitable for that. As she's still a puppy; despite her size, picking something suitable and hard wearing was my main concern.

After browsing the website and being torn between two, I opted for the Police Style Lead. This lead is a 3 point multi-length lead which allows your to train your dog at various lengths in one single lead. With this lead, which starts at £13.99, you have a wide range of customisations to make, as with all the leads from Meg Heath. I opted for it in Orange, with the 25mm width and nickel fittings.

I really liked this lead, the clasps felt strong and not like they would go weak and break soon, the material felt strong and the fittings were secure. Dottie is quite a strong dog, so we knew if it would be good on our first walk using it. We went to the park and saw lots of things which she just wanted to chase so lots of long distance pulling and the lead has been excellent. It managed to take her full force and not even take a dent. I loved the fact I could put her on the shortest setting to begin our walk when she is crazy, keeping her close by, once we get to an open space I put it on the longest option so she is free to run more but I also have the middle option to use if need be too.

Overall, we really liked this lead, it is no more expensive than one you would get within a pet shop, but the quality is a lot better and you know a lot of love and care has gone into making it. It was comfortable to hold and has washed well too thanks to it getting muddy. Meg Heath Dog Leads and Collars are definitely a company I would recommend to dog owners simply stylish and affordable collars and leads.

We have been given the opportunity for one of our readers to win the same style dog lead in your own choice of colour, simply enter below and Good Luck!

Meg Heath Police Style Dog Lead

Please Note: I received the lead in exchange for an honest review, all words and opinions are my own and not influenced in any way.

Thursday, 20 April 2017

The Pregnancy That Wasn't Meant To Be...

I'm going to start by saying its taken a lot for me to write this, I don't want any negative comments if you don't like it just move on. It's taken me almost a year to speak with my best friend about what happened and here I am sharing it with the whole world!

Babies, babies, babies... When I was younger, I always dreamed of having a large family, ok not HUGE but three or four babies. You see I'm an only child and I adore children, I didn't want my children to be alone so I knew I wanted at least two. When I found out I was pregnant young with Jack, I was shocked but knew I wanted him. Various family members (not close) and friends tried to talk me into an abortion, but for me, back then at least abortion was never something I would consider. To me I was killing that poor innocent child, of course I didn't and I have Jack to tell the tale. I knew one day I would give him a sibling and along came Isla. Again, not planned but she somehow just slotted in.

For me, at this point my family was not yet complete, in the future I hoped to have another child or two. Fast forward a few months and I wasn't feeling myself. Here is a quick note I made...

Today I found out about you, my gentle little bean inside. I've been feeling allsorts for a while now. Generally feeling bloated, I've been eating meals and getting full rather quickly. The past few days I've been feeling nausea throughout the day but especially the morning up until lunch. I've been worrying about my return to work after giving birth to your sister just 9 months ago and convinced myself it was just emotions from this. However symptoms continued and I needed to remove the thought from my head; I mean how could I be pregnant, I'm still breastfeeding your sister on demand, she feeds throughout the night and I'm yet to have a return period. Today I took that all important test, that blue cross appeared. I couldn't believe it, it was just a fluke. I went to the supermarket and brought a digital test and up popped 'Pregnant 3+'. How could this be? Currently I'm the only one who knows about you my special bean. I'm a mixture of emotions right now, I'm sorry for how I'm feeling.

Yes, I discovered yet again I had unexpectedly caught pregnant.
I had all sorts of emotions running through my head for the foreseeable. I considered abortion but those thoughts I had before came running back. I considered carrying on but how would I cope? At this point I was living as a single parent, with an almost 10 month old, and a just turned four year old. I was due to return to work just 11 days from finding out. I'd recently brought my first house so I needed to work and I just couldn't afford another child.

I kept the pregnancy to myself for almost a week, within this time I'd looked at different options and decided abortion was right for me. Despite how I feel about this I knew it was right for me at this point. I booked myself an appointment and then just had to sort childcare as I couldn't take them with me. I looked at various options but had no choice but to tell a couple of people so to sort childcare.

The day came for the appointment, 20th April, I spent the whole morning until the appointment changing my mind in my head, telling myself it was best. When I got along to the clinic, first I had a scan to determine my dates and also a brief counselling about what was involved and my final chance to back out. I knew if I left that day I would never go back again, I would struggle I'm sure of it.
I had hoped for a medical abortion however was told I would be having a surgical abortion, it seemed to be what everyone in there was having.

All of the time I was awaiting my procedure, I still was unsure if I'd made the right decision, deep down I knew it was but there was always that small part of me. It also didn't help I had friends who were trying to conceive and couldn't, they were struggling with infertility and here I was. I was called through to the room, where there were a lot of people, I laid on the bed and before I knew it I was in the recovery room. Of course for the procedure I was put to sleep, in the recovery though the staff were friendly and caring. I was given tea and biscuits and left to come around properly. 

Before I knew it I was heading home, I was quiet for the remainder of the day whilst I reflected on what had just happened. I didn't feel in pain or anything which I expected but rested for the remainder. Shortly after we got home the pains began, I was cooped up in bed doubled over in pain. I remember saying 'If I knew this pain would follow I wouldn't of had it done'. Thats the part no one tells you about. 

It wasn't long until the pain had passed, the bleeding had stopped and physically I was back to my normal self. Mentally however, I wasn't and in fact I'm still not. Everyday following I would think about it, reflect on it. I was beating myself up about it all, I still kept it to myself. As time passed I think about it less often, just before Christmas I spoke out to some people within a birth group I'm on. I expected them to judge me negatively but they were all there to offer support. I decided I possibly needed some support or some counselling, so I contacted some local places who offered abortion counselling but there were no spaces and I never managed to go. 

However, here we are one year on, exactly one year today I turned my world upside down and to me into a mess. I still have mixed emotions about what happened, I still haven't spoken to people and I still struggle daily. It's made me think two children is possibly right for us as a family, I'm lucky to have two healthy and happy children so shouldn't beat myself up. 
I hope through writing and sharing my story I can clear my mind a little and possibly help someone who may be feeling the same. It's such a taboo subject which no one likes to talk about - heck even I don't.

I know many people won't agree with the decision I had, and I think when I was younger I wouldn't have but for me it was right at the time. 

Monday, 17 April 2017

New Episodes of Kazoops on cBeebies

Both Jack and Isla enjoy cBeebies, and it tends to be on in the background all day when we are at home, although they only tend to sit down to watch their favourite shows. One show they both enjoy is Kazoops, so when we were told about new episodes starting today the children were excited. But when we were shown a preview of the first episode they were super excited. 

Kazoops is a show about the adventures of Monty and his pet pig, Jimmy Jones. In each episode Monty and Jimmy use their imaginations to find ways to look at the world around them differently.

Firstly, what amazing character names do they have? I think its such a hit with the children because of the bright colours and cheery music which instantly attracts Isla and Jack loves the story and adventure behind it all. 

The first episode, which airs today at 4.20pm on cBeebies is about Monty trying to solve a problem for his family, to which he comes up with many ideas. But can his day dreaming help to solve these real problems? Only time will tell in the episode.

If Kazoops isn't a show you've watched yet, make sure you catch up on the new episodes on cBeebies starting today at 4.20pm.